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Fear the Future? Dont.
In one sense there are three parts of our lives. Past, present and future. How each of these is viewed has huge consequences.
The past:If one looks back at the past for anything other than experience, the past can paralyze today. Many times our memories of events, and results from those events will seem relevant to a situation we might be facing today when in reality today's situation is totally different. If we treat the current event like the remembered event, we probably have not addressed it correctly. Each problem, challenge, and situation today requires a fresh new outlook and solution. To be sure, we can use look at past experience for suggestions, but today's solution will always be different.
The future:The future is not real. One of the biggest blocks to living a full life is to spend an inordinate amount of time worrying about the future. Many people fear an unknown future which makes it impossible to live today. This is especially true for those in business for themselves. When one is beginning a business, with no revenue, no customers and startup costs depleting financial reserves, fear of the future can be overwhelming. In fact, this fear can easily incapacitate one to the point that nothing at all gets done due to the 'what if' scenarios developing from visions of a horrible failure sure to come.
What if - I fail?
What if - no customers show up?
What if - I run out of money?
What if?
The cure for fear of the future is to keep reminding one's Self to live in the present moment as much as possible. To fully focus on what is happening right now is challenging. When bank accounts are shrinking, customers and clients are slow to arrive, and the gut reaction is to extrapolate the current conditions into the future, fear has an opening and will take full advantage!
In the time it takes to think through the process and create this fabricated future, fear steps into a life and plays havoc. The truly sad part is many will create that fabricated future because they already believe it. They will unconsciously make choices to bring that future to reality.
The present:The present is a daily, minute by minute gift to us from the Universe. The present needs to be appreciated, caressed and cared for.
It is possible to break this vicious cycle of fear based on unreal projections of things that might happen..
Being present is a learning process. Simply being is the first step in that process. To Be who you are comfortable being, and to Do what you love to do provides a very good foundation for the strength required to eliminate the fear of the future and to have faith in the present.
Your Coach and online friend,
Miami
Helping others find their path - and stay on it. www.creativemasterminds.com
Quotation of the Week·
Learn from the past, plan for the future, and live in the present.
Duane Alan Hahn
About The Author
Miami Phillips is an ANSIR Certified Personal Coach and the founder of Creative MasterMinds who believes personal growth is an essential ingredient to being happy and contributing to this world. While his main focus is affordable personal and business coaching, he also offers motivational teleclasses, ebooks, reading recommendations and much more. To find out more visit his site at http://www.creativemasterminds.com or send him an email at coach@creativemasterminds.com
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