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"Circumstances are the rulers of the weak; they are but the instruments of the wise." -Samuel Lover
One of the most common complaints people have these days is that their plate is fuller than full. The demands of modern life often leaves some people feeling dragged out and inadequate. Many people know intellectually that they can't give 100% to everything, yet still they have unreasonable expectations for themselves. As a result "something's gotta give," and usually, it is their self-care & personal fulfillment.
See if this sounds like something you might be saying to yourself. "Life just seems to be whizzing by me, and I don't really feel as though I'm spending enough quality time on the things that matter most to me. I worry a lot that I'm going to somehow miss my life and then it will be over."
Life's demands may not slow up any time soon, and learning to balance life is an ongoing art. If you think one day you will "get it all done, and then you can relax," you are bound to be disappointed.
So then how can we insure that those things of greatest importance to us get the amount of attention they deserve? Consider the following absolute basic life management skills.
Number one: Identify the top four priority categories in your life (i.e., spirituality/personal development, family/relationship, career, personal care/health) and honestly assess how much time you give to each category.
Often people have expectations of themselves that are unreasonable given the amount of time they actually have to devote to something. If, for example, you are giving only 50% of your time to career, it is truly unreasonable to expect yourself to be a superstar in that category. Additionally, if kids and family are a top priority to you, giving only 50% to career is probably the max you can give and still have enough time and energy left over.
Number two: Write things down! Don't use your brain as your day planner. Doing so increases stress. Consider making five separate "to do" lists. The first four lists correlate with your four top priority life categories (from our example above, one for spirituality/personal development, one for family/relationships, one for career/work and one for personal care/health). Then the fifth list would be for general "to do's" that don't fit into those top four categories.
From these lists make sure you schedule the important items in your priority categories FIRST, BEFORE anything else makes it onto your calendar. As a result you won't have to worry whether you're making time for priorities. Then you can pick and choose from your general to do list which additional activities you may need to, have to or (actually want to), fit in. By the way, don't be afraid to use that good word "no" to any time-robbers you identify!
Number three: Practice being in the present moment only. Let's say you're always thinking about your endless pile of work at the office when you're home with the family. Fact is there is absolutely nothing you can do about those things on your desk. Worrying about it takes precious time and attention away from your priorities and increases your feelings of dissatisfaction about life.
It takes practice and some mental self-control to keep your attention on what's happening in the present moment, but this tip alone will bring huge rewards. When you savor the series of life moments one by one, you will find you don't feel as though you're missing out.
Be patient and loving with yourself. Always remember, life is an ongoing process and it will throw you curve balls from time to time. But with practice, you will find coming back to equilibrium gets quicker & easier. As a result, you will enjoy life more and have a more consistent experience of happiness.
About The Author
Dr. Christina Winsey-Rudd is a coach, speaker and writer. She developed her unique, new coaching technique: Neuro-Integrative Action & Energy Technique, through years of working with patients and clients as a holistic chiropractor, and medical massage therapist. Her passion is to help others to live joy, fulfillment and prosperity in all areas of their lives!
Dr. Chris is accepting only select clients who are serious about living their dreams! http://www.dynamicgoldmindstrategies.com
Email: info@dynamicgoldmindstrategies.com





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