We can all be confident when we are sure of ourselves and knowledgeable about the situation in which we find ourselves. But what happens when we are not so sure and when we are forced to step outside our comfort zone? What happens to our thinking?
First we need to control our thinking then we need to develop techniques for remaining confident in a wide variety of scenarios and to catch ourselves when confidence begins to wane.
11 Techniques to Boost Self-Confidence
First of all let's demolish a myth that some people believe about confidence ?? You don't have to be an expert in something to have confidence.
You can have 2 people learning a new task, and one person is learning to do the task with confidence, while the other is making lots of mistakes and getting flustered. It's not about how well you do a particular task, but how you feel inside as you are doing it that makes you confident. If I had to choose to be confident in one area only, I would make that area 'learning whilst making mistakes'.
First identify a situation where you would like to be more confident, for example:
o In meetings with an important person
o Giving presentations
o Giving honest feedback
o Visiting a client
o In a sales context
o Networking with friends and prospective business associates
o Meeting new friends
o At parties
o Beginning a new hobby/evening class
Write your situation here:
TECHNIQUE 1 - Context Switch
List 5 situations, in a similar context to the one you have identified above, where you are usually confident.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
Next, imagine you are re-enacting one of the contexts above, feeling very confident, and answer the following questions:
1. How do you feel when you have this confidence?
2. How do you hold yourself?
3. What is going through your mind?
4. Do you have any inner dialogue? What is it saying?
5. On what are you focusing your attention?
Now adopt the thinking, inner dialogue, posture and emotions you have when confident, at times where you are lacking confidence.
The above extract is taken from our e-book Keeping You Confident
This 33 page e-book shows how confidence is dependent upon the way we think, and focuses on 11 techniques for boosting self-confidence in any situation, among strangers as well as contemporaries. Some of the other techniques in the e-book are:
o Sphere of Confidence
o Smile at your thoughts
o Compete with Yourself
o The Breath of Confidence
o Adopt Confident Gestures
More details at: http://quadrant1.co.uk/cat.php?cat=24
article_text... Read More
article_text... Read More
article_text... Read More
article_text... Read More
article_text... Read More
article_text... Read More
article_text... Read More
Don't Let Life Happen To You It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live... Read More
The Life Path is determined by the sum that is arrived at after reducing your birth date by adding digits together... Read More
Happiness is worth helping along... Read More
Laughter, humor, a lighthearted sense of being - all of these are an important part of a well-balanced breakfast, er, life... Read More
Many people live in clutter, emotionally eat themselves into overweight, live in debt, hate their jobs and otherwise live unhappy lives, unable and seemingly unwilling to change... Read More
Does the expression "single and happy" sound like an oxymoron to you? Are you weary of others (especially other singles) reinforcing the belief that singles cannot be happy? Do you find yourself always planning for the future or putting things off until you "are married and settled? Do you often have a sense that the intense feelings of happiness and joy cannot really be experienced unless you "have someone to share it with?" Do you just feel there is not enough time and other necessary resources available to the single person to pursue experiences that can bring true happiness?If the above resonates in your gut, do not despair... Read More
If there was ever a principle that was responsible for the most happiness and achievement in the world, it would be the 80/20 Principle... Read More